How Elegant is Your Schedule?

There are times of the day or the life when one could do with four arms, a second pair of eyes plus at least 20 more hours each day. I’m moving houses in two weeks’ time, so I’m sure you understand what I mean! ’The temptation to hyperventilate is sometimes a very...

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How to Master your Decisions

    We all know this person who takes an eon to chose between three kinds of salads and finally orders a pizza or who urgently needs a pair of shoes, tries on 30 different pairs without being able to decide, only to leave the shoe shop and then to buy a...

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What to Do when Someone’s Blocking You

  Did you ever have a project you were passionate about? You planned everything, lovingly took care of allthe details, made sure that all the t’s were crossed and all the i’s dotted, and then the phone rings… That’s what’s happened to me today. I’m moving houses...

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Is your Home Addicted to Struggle?

What's happening in our homes corresponds to what's happening in our lives. By and now this simple truth has made it into most people's awareness. Not that we don't try to ignore it, at times. Or that we try to hide our homes from the world, because they show an image...

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Are you addicted to struggle? 10 Clues.

  Long before my coaching days I attended a seminar for women facilitated by Denise Linn. One young woman listened with growing impatience to Denise’s talk and finally burst out defiantly: “You make it all sound so easy – but I have problem x, y and z to deal...

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What to Do when You Have to Wait

The people and things we mostly want to influence are usually the ones we can't influence at all: babies, teenagers and the person on the hotline for our technical problem come to mind. As to the things we can't influence, TIME is of course on top of the list. We all...

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Remembering the Future

When I took the metro for the first time, 25 years ago, I was giddy with excitement. Everything was romantic. This very special Parisian metro smell, the way the trains came rattling into the station, and then the names of the stations! My phantasy went spinning:...

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How to Deal with Criticism from your Loved Ones

You had thought about it for a long time or it came as a sudden inspiration: things are going to change. You’ll take the leap. You are going to do something different. You are excited, a bit scared, too, but your soul sings at the prospect of feeling alive in a new...

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The Number One Error of a House MakeOver

  - Do you dream of making the world in general and your life in particular more beautiful, one room at a time? - Do you feel that if only you could get that desk organized, your career would soar; or that streamlining your closet would be the fastest way to...

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10 Ways to be Elegant (sans wearing Couture)

Most of us would like to be elegant or more elegant, preferably effortless. What is elegance? Now, of course, elegance is in the eye of the beholder. For some Audrey Hepburn will be the epitome of elegance, for others Lady Gaga, or their grandmother. Personally I find...

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How to Double your Creativity when You Declutter

    Recently we had an animated discussion in our Facebook group* about my upcoming program #MySpaceFirst and about the energetic blueprint and the influence of all the things we surround ourselves with. Naturally, clutter and clutter clearing were part of...

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How to be at your Best when People don’t accept your NO

You knew that the only right answer was saying No. You had thought it through and evaluated all the options. Or you had a clear gut feeling. This was a red-velvet-rope-no-one-passes moment. So you said what you hoped to be a loud and clear “No”: No, you were not...

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A better Word than “Sorry”

  Recently I had an appointment in a yet unknown place and was circling around to find a parking space. As I found one and was preparing to get in, a man started to gesticulate, to yell, to roll his eyes and make angry faces, and to signal in every possible...

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How to get out of this everyday Trap

  When I was working in opera, I shared my dressing room with a charming and pretty colleague, who, night after night, would slap on her stage make-up, shrug into her costume, do a scale or two, cast a glance in the mirror and declare to her reflection: “Ca ira...

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What to do when you are not “in the mood”.

  When I was working in opera, no one gave a fig about being in the “mood” for getting out on stage and - hopefully - doing something worth the name “music”. With 900 people waiting in their seats for the curtain to rise and an irascible conductor in the...

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